Obstacles

5 years now, I've been asking for a car.

Any car.

Every year it's, "we can get one next year."

Next year rolls around, and it's shoved back another torturous year.


I need a second car in order to be a doula.
I need to be able to drive the girls to a friends house, and to drive to the births.

I've been so excited about getting my schooling done.
(which I finished by the way, I just need my births to certify)
I've planned it all out in my head.
I've made websites, business cards, marketed myself.
I even have a birth lined up for this spring.

Then we had the talk.

"We just can't afford another car this year."
*spiral into depression*

I've reached the point where I would do questionable things just for a freaking car.

me "would you be willing to sell your body on the streets?"
denny "you want the car, why don't you sell your body?"
me "i already gave my body, i had the kids. now it's your turn."

He ignored me, as I went to go sulk on the couch like a teenager.

One day.... one day I will have another vehicle.

Until then, we will survive I suppose.
I just have no idea how I'm going to be able to be a doula, with no way to get to births.

Who wants to be our chauffeur?
You will be payed in baked goods.

Homebirth

We aren't exactly sure when, but at some point in the future, we will have more children.

When we do, those children (brace yourselves) will be born at home.

*GASP*

Before my friends and family die from heart attacks, read on.

Homebirths are just as safe, if not safer than hospital births.
(assuming the woman is not high risk, and has a competent care provider)

Homebirths dramatically reduce intervention rates.
Only around 12% transfer to a hospital during or after labor.
The majority of which were simply for pain relief and exhaustion.

Generally the "serious issues" that arise during a labor, are due to needless interventions at a hospital.

Example: Mom is tired, so they convince her to get an epidural. She then has to lay on her back her entire labor, which is a horrible position for birthing. Labor doesn't "progress" to the doctor's liking, so he orders Pitocin. She may not feel her contractions, but baby certainly does. Pitocin contractions are longer, and give smaller breaks in between. Baby becomes distressed. C-section is preformed. Huzzah! THE BABY IS SAVED! *snort*

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAnyways.

I don't believe that I should have to be constantly on guard during labor, so we will simply be sticking it at home. We will have a CPM, certified professional midwife, as well as a doula.

I figured I would give the world a heads up so that whenever we do become pregnant, no one has to deal with the shock of my choices.


Also, as well meaning as your concerns may be, they aren't necessary.
So before anyone goes calling us crazy, do two things for me:

1- Actually research planned homebirth statistics.
2- Remember that I am working towards becoming a CPM, and my career will be birthing women at home.

As my sweet friend puts it, "Hospitals are for sick people, pregnancy is not an illness."

Legit

^^My super awesome logo.^^

I finally published my website, and created a Facebook fan page for my Doula business. :)

Go have a look see!

http://www.BabiesBelliesBirth.com/

and

http://www.facebook.com/BabiesBelliesBirth

I'm super proud of my self. :D
I even have business cards and all that jazz.

Certification here I come!

A Career

In high school, I had life planned out.

Graduate
College
Med school
OBGYN
Family
Babies

In that order.
So much for that.

After getting pregnant and having Sophie, I no longer liked the idea of being an OBGYN anyways. The birth experience was lame, not special, and sort of traumatizing.

I got smarter with Mya. We switched to a Midwife, and had a more enjoyable experience all around. I would have loved to be in a birth center instead, but halfway through the pregnancy, we weren't prepared for the costs. :/

Some point in the last few weeks, something clicked. I've always wanted to birth babies. I love midwives. Why not be one?

Everytime I've looked into schooling for other career options, I would instantly get depressed. The time away from my family, and the ridiculous amount of money just seemed impossible. I looked up Midwifery anyways.

:)

Game plan:
become a doula
then
a midwife

Luckily I have had several very sweet ladies help me out so far.
And as always, Denny supports me completely.

I already have a scholarship through a doula organization, so off I go!